I look at the girls who come through the restaurant where I work with their hair done, make-up on, jewlery and their pretty clothes and I wish I could wear that stuff again. I know I could...but I would not feel comfortable in it. Especially the pants. I like my skirts 98% of the time. The other 2% of the time, I do wish I had a pair of pants to just put on.
So I decided to take a "break" from my cape dresses. I am still dressing modestly, just with skirts and shirts for a little bit. I haven't started "doing" my hair...although I have been tempted.
Please tell me I am not alone in wanting to feel pretty. I feel like people judge me for wearing a cape dress and then they judge me for not wearing a cape dress. What am I to do? I am not convicted that cape dresses are the only modest clothing out there so I personally do not have a problem wearing my skirts. But I know some people will definately "have a cow" if they find out I am not wearing my cape dresses all the time...specifically the people at the church I am on-again-off-again attending.
If only I was content with how I am...that's what I pray for.
Blessings in Christ,
No, I can totally relate, in particular when I am at a party or anywhere festive. I feel like a crow among peacocks even though I wear modern modest clothes. I don't want to show a lot of skin but I feel I lose some of the fashion and glamour in my clothes. I don't want to feel this way but I do and I think it is common if you dress like this and is not part of a plain community.
ReplyDeleteLike you I have made corrections to my dress. I started out with thinking I should always cover everything between knees and neck and down to the elbows on my arms but that didn't work in summer. I felt very uncomfortable with covering so much in summer so I decided to wear sleeveless tops which don't show too much and t-shirts and I felt much better. I also decided that I am OK with swimming in a regular bathing suit and shorts that go below my knee. I don't think you should be legalistic regarding dress and I think it is important that you are sincere in which items you choose to wear if you make this choice to dress plain and/or modest otherwise it can become a costume and not worship.
I understand your friends though, I assume their worldview is that capedresses are the only acceptable clothing for a Christian but neither of us have this background and I think that the sincerity in our choice is more important than the exact modell of dress. One day capedresses only might be the only choice for you or me but right now it isn't. God works in a pace and a direction that suits each person, that is my view.
I live in a plain community but I do not really feel apart of it because I am not a member of a specific church here. The church I have been attending teaches that evil will be gone if everyone were to wear cape dresses and coverings.
ReplyDeleteYou are right, one day we may end up wearing cape dresses only, but God works differently in each person's life and we all have to be cnosiderate of how He is working in other's lives.
Thank you Elin.
Blessings.
I don't think that modest dress and coverings are so powerful they will erase evil, we all know who is the only one to do that. I think they make a very powerful statement to the people around the bearer of them and I feel that covering and dressing the way I do have changed me but it is a small part, only god can change me, without him it's just clothes like any other. I think one should wear them for one's own sake, not for others, not to avoid tempting men but for the sake of god and because one believes it is god's plan.
ReplyDeleteOh my dear how fortunate you are to live in a plain community! I do not and am so lonely for fellowship with like minded ladies. It has only been recent years, 5 or so that I began dressing more to please God and just seeking out what He wants me to be and how He wants me to live. And that is exactly what it is. It is pleasing to God. It is not to please anyone but Him. That is the only one whose opinion truly matters. I have struggled with those same feelings because I work in an office and I am the only one who dresses modestly. There are times when Satan gets me down and he tells me that I do not look as nice or as fashionable as the other ladies in my office. (I work outside the home for now) I witness the latest fashions, hairdos, nails, fake tans and many other things that are fake each and everyday.
ReplyDeleteThe evil one will whisper things in our ears telling us that we don't look as good as those people, but the evil one is also the father of lies. When you start pleasing God, then it seems like the devil starts working at us a little harder because he starts thinking he is losing his grip on us..... then if the devil can get us to doubt just even a little bit then his foot could get in the door.
I just knew one time that I was going to go back to wearing pants. I went to a flea market and bought a couple pair cheap. It was horrible. I cried. I wore them that night, my husband was confused, I felt just horrible. I felt like I was going to go back to the person I used to be and I don't want to do that. Christ has done alot of work in my life and I don't want to go back and be like everybody else. We aren't always going to fit in down here because this world just isn't our home, we are just a passing through and don't you forget it. :o)
Modesty is a heart issue.
Occasionally I feel like that.
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