I went home this past weekend and Saturday when I got home I did have my veil on and my dad said not a word to me. So Sunday I decided to try a little "experiment". We had gotten lots of snow so I knew we wouldn't be going out nor would anybody be coming over, so instead of putting my veil on, I left my hair in a bun and guess what? My dad actually talked to me quite a bit.
How is it that wearing a veil changes whether a father will talk to his own child or not? I struggled before I moved out whether to obey God and wear a covering or whether to obey my dad and not wear "that thing" in HIS house. Now that I've moved out, I do wear my covering nearly all the time, but when I go home I go back to my inner struggles. What do to? Wear a veil and not talk to my dad? Or not wear a veil and be able to talk to my dad? My mom and sister talk to me either way... no they do not agree with my conviction of covering, but they have come to accept it as mine and I do not impress my conviction upon them which heps immensely I do believe. Maybe time will help with my dad, but I am not sure. I disappointed him to no end when I decided not to go after engineering anymore and to follow God's push. All I can do is keep praying for strength and guidance in how to handle the situation, but no matter how easy it is to say that, it is hard for me to give everything up to the Lord and allow Him to have 100% control over my life.
Blessings in Christ,
I think that you should obey your father when you are in his house. It will be the same when you marry. I like to wear skirts a lot. My husband doesn't have a problem with me wearing them but not all the time. I need to be sensitive to this respect him for it. God understands where your father stands. :o) Pray about it! Praying for you! :o)
ReplyDeleteIt can be so hard to face family members when convictions of ours are so foreign to them. I'm 43 and I still get "nervous" of what family members will say or think sometimes. I pray that the Lord will strengthen your spirit and give you wisdom as to how to best respond in their presence.
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Lisa
I think you should obey the father, god, not your earthly father because I think his behaviour is a test. However, I think you should still compromise with your father, perhaps he will be more OK with a more fancy covering or just a bun cover? Give him some slack, and hope he will change his mind.
ReplyDeleteI do not wear my cap at home with my family but I wear a scarf or a regular woll hat now in winter. Why? I know they do not understand neither my faith or my conviction to wear a head covering and this makes it easier for them and me to socialize. I love my family but in some respects we are very different. I don't give up what is important to me but I wear something they can choose to interpret as just an item of clothing.
Thank you all for your kind words and suggestions :) I have actually been fairly well accepted by most of my other family -- it's just my dad that is holding out. I am praying for strength and the knowledge of what to do as I am going home for Christmas for a few days and do not wish to stir the pot anymore than God wants me to :) I do wear a black lace veil with lace edging when I am at home, not my kapp as I know that would cause a huge separation in my family.
ReplyDeleteI have the same issue with friends.They believe they belong to the only true church and so get upset when they see my veil and cape dress because not only is my plain attire distinctive, it also means that I reject their church (which I also was born into).I have found it best not to upset others but at the same time I do not hide my beliefs.I compromise when I am going to their house by dressing less plain and without a veil but if they bump into me in a public place I will greet them in my cape dress and veil.
ReplyDeleteI am a new reader of your blog, and I'm so happy to have found you! :) While I am not new to modest dress, our family has recently been led by the Lord to begin to cover. We are still taking small steps and covering at our church services and also when we have Bible study at home 3 times a day. We are not wearing them while *out and about* yet, and we haven't worn them around family either. We have an advantage of not living by any family, but they all still think we're odd. :) It makes it much harder for sure. I'm very happy that you are sharing your struggles. I will be happy to learn from you. :)--S
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